Sadly only a select few of you will be able to read this post! 1) Because a lot of Facebook friends would not understand the content. 2) Because, personally I don't like writing about this 'topic', but I felt that it needed to be shared in some fashion!
My mom recently ask my sister and I, if we would like to attend a relationship class that a lady at our church teaches. I was hesitant, but I agreed because my sister was going.
(Now before I go any further here's some things you should know. I think very highly of Jewel Carter, I think she is, in my opinion, one of my favorite Godly ladies. I love to hear her speak in tongues, and I find a complete peace around her when she does this. However, something about me, that you need to know. I, for one, am not the type of person to enjoy or rather talk about "sexual behaviors/events" (if you get my drift) unless it's the occasional 'That's what she said..' Other than that I become very embarrassed/awkward when someone else talks about it.)
With that being said, lets get back to the above conversation. So I drive to BSG, to attend this "relationship" class. I must also mention that everyone else in the class was married. We begin by Jewel pulling different bible verses out about marriage and relationships. After we have read the scriptures the awkwardness began. The mention of sex and what your husband needs and what not! I felt like a complete idiot, because I cried every time I had to talk about the different topics. (Which was just twice, but still). Hey, I'm a prude, it's reality.
But I wanted to talk about what I actually got from the class beside knowing that I hate talking about sex. I even hate writing it down now!
When pulling out scriptures and reading them, we came across the scripture that I use to hate the most about marriage that says,
"22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."
I used to hate this scripture because I thought well that just doesn't seem fair. Why should I have to submit to him, that makes me sound like my husband has control over me. But the way Jewel explained it was completely different. Submit, would rather be agreeing on everything. So that when a problem arises, there won't be any fighting (which sounds a lot better to me) and you both will be in agreement as one. Now, agreeing on everything might sound super hard, but I'd rather us agree or find common ground, than my husband saying, "The bible says you have to submit to me, so whatever I say goes!" Because 'bad news bears' that just wouldn't work for me!!
Another aspect of the class that has really helped our relationship is when Jewel told us all of these nifty facts about men. (Men can't read your mind, sometimes they could be staring out into space and really NOT be thinking about anything and men hate nagging)
For some reason, I always knew at least two of these to be true, but I never lived by them until now. Before, I always expected Corey to know when I was upset or how to comfort me and I always nagged. "No, you're not doing that right, that fork doesn't go in that cabinet, you're not eating that gummy bear the right way, it's the head first and then the body!" (you get the point) But now, I'm more cautious of what I say. I've tried to stop nagging as much, and I truly believe our relationship had improved because of it. I still wish he could read my mind, but I've tried to help him understand my needs by talking more. But the one that gets me the most is the, "Hey honey, what are you thinking about?"...."Nothing" (This really irks me for some reason, mostly because when I'm staring out into space I have something on my mind, I'm never just staring out into space thinking about nothing.) So, I just don't ask anymore!
This last part though, has helped 100% better our relationship. Jewel encouraged us to pray everyday, "God help me love this man, because I can't do it on my own." I have prayed this every day since that class. I do it a lot when I'm frustrated, but I feel as though, we've had less fights. I breather, say this prayer, and try to understand what's more important, fighting or just taking a moment to talk or listen.
The other parts of the class I was very uncomfortable, but I'm glad that I had a chance to go.
In 7 months and 6 days (because I have a wedding countdown on my phone), I will marry the love of my life. The man God created for me. He loves me unconditionally, takes me to watch movies he's not very fond of, rubs my feet when they smell bad, and keeps me laughing even when I want to punch him in the face sometimes! :) I cannot wait until the day I walk down the isle, say I do, and then jump on a plane to Jamaica! YAY!!
So, I hope you all enjoyed this blog. I just had to write it down....
"Find rest, oh my soul, in God alone. My HOPE comes from him" Psalms 62:5
Love,
Callie Marie.
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